Hey our DnD brothers and sisters!
Here is our next Sunday surprise post. You do truly learn something new every day!
His really resonated with us and we hope it will with you too!?
For those already in recovery, we know just how much we owe our new lifestyles, thanks to not only our own hard work but also to those who constantly supported us and continue to do so when times get tough.
For those not in recovery but want to, you will soon find after making small changes such as changing your phone number and removing those people who would hinder or reverse our progress that you will quickly gain new, reliable, trustworthy friends who truly want to help you rather than having alterior motives such as what they can get from you, rather than truly caring about your progress and well-being.
If you only do one thing today, reach out to someone and ask them if they are ok? Truly listen to what they have to say and take a true interest in what they have to say.
Having a community of friends and familiar faces can be a real strength and motivating factor to continue on the right path in your recovery, or for those not in recovery, will help you find new friends who care about you as a person, rather than what they can acquire from you.
What Should I Do If I Want To Find New Friends & Familiar Faces?
Making an effort to speak to others and gain new friends can be a daunting process when all you know is those who want to know you for their own personal gains rather than caring about you as a person and living, feeling, breathing human being.
You can find new friends by attending fellowship meetings online or in person (when lockdown ends and physical meetings restart), clubs for your interests or hobbies to find like minded people or learn a new skill or gain a new hobby such as learning to play the guitar, joining a choir or sign up to online forums or discussions with those who have like minded interests as you.
We forget how to talk to others unless it’s about substances, so here is some tips you can use to gain new friends:
- Ask how they are and truly listen to what they have to say.
- If you plan to do something or make a commitment or promise, try your best to stick to them.
- Be prepared to share.
- If someone confides in you, keep that information only between the two of you. (Except where doing so would harm themselves, you or others, and even then, don’t gossip).
- Take the time and effort to keep the friendship alive, you could do this by secretly pushing a “thank you for being my friend” card through their letter box, text, or even better, call them and ask how they are. You could also bake some simple, cheap cakes and leave them on their doorstep. The list is endless!
- If they have had a difficult time, try cheering them on. Knowing you’re there for them and you truly care goes a long way in friendships.
- Be honest.
- Pass on the wisdom of your experiences if you are further down the recovery road than they are.
- And finally, BE GENUINE! Nobody want a two faced friend.
To find local fellowship meetings or hobby/interest groups, do a search engine search for local groups or clubs. You can find your local Narcotics Anonymous (NA), Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Cocaine Anonymous (CA) meetings on our help and support page here.
Happy Sunday all!!!…
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