Now we’re in 2021, birthdays and other events will be coming, which can make gift giving a difficult process for those friends and family members who are around addicts and yet, still want to give them something meaningful, useful and with the minimum possible risk of misuse or abuse.
Whether it’s a holiday/annual event such as Christmas, a special occasion or a birthday, you may be wondering what to buy for that friend or loved one in your life who has been or is in recovery for a substance use disorder (drug or alcohol addiction).
Asking what they want can be problematic because the gifts they may ask for could be related to their substance use, or even make their addiction worse. If they ask outright for something directly related to their substance use disorder, such as money, drugs, alcohol or drug paraphernalia, it could lead to a conflict at a time when you want to strengthen and celebrate the occasion with them rather than weaken or damage your relationship with them.
These suggestions will help you to not only give them something that can be of practical use to them, but also strengthen your relationship with them by showing you care, love and support them without coming across as patronising or pushy
Using rivers and waterfalls as analogies for addiction and recovery have a lot more in common than you may realise at first, especially helping us to see those “Aha” moments.
The “aha’s” come when we realise that we don’t tend to blame people for drowning or for just treading water. We understand that sometimes people jump in over their heads, get caught in the current or get swept away by forces stronger than themselves.
If we find ourselves in this swiftly moving river, we recognise that we need more than human willpower to get back out. Much more. This is where we can find some compassion, which can be a life raft we offer to ourselves and others who are in recovery.
Addiction is a chronic relapsing brain disease and its rapids are fast and deep. Some of us dive in and never make it back to the surface. Others fight the current for many years. Most of us need help to make our way to shore and keep from falling in again. It takes a lot of practice to become a strong swimmer.
You can find helpful exercises and information to benefit you, no matter whether you’re still actively using or drinking, in recovery already or wish to help a friend or loved one who’s afflicted by an addiction.
Simply download and print the wheel, put it together and you can track your calories, alcohol units based on what you’re drinking. This is vital if you are trying to reduce your alcohol intake over a fixed period of time or simply because you want to see whether you are drinking too much or not?