Here is the final article in our mini-series, looking at the outcome of adults who have experienced living with a parent or parents who were chronically using drugs, binge drinking alcohol or had addictions to both. With their testimony, those currently going through a similar situation may benefit from the experience of those who’ve lived with a parent(s) as addicts before.
There are many adults among us, many of whom you might not recognise with intimate knowledge of what it’s like to grow up with an addicted parent.
Sadly, there are also many people who love those adults and don’t know what it is like to have become an adult who was once a child raised amongst chaos, instability, fear, shame, embarrassment, frustration and even anger.
For many of us, our entire childhood was swathed in dysfunction. As development goes, the severe dysfunction of our childhood probably resulted in severely delayed or stunted emotional, mental, educational, financial and even physical growth in certain cases.
This article is compiled by combining the most commonly felt issues that they’ve experienced when they were younger and had a parent, parents or guardians who were misusing drugs, binging on alcohol and developing an addiction to drugs and alcohol.
Addiction treatment needs improvement. Exploring new methods is essential to advancing the field. This not only benefits the addict, but also their family, friends, work, community and country as a whole.
Find out all you need to know inside this article!…
When someone has a drug or alcohol addiction, substance use often becomes a ritual of its own. There might be a time of day or location where they typically use or drink, or they might always perform a certain routine before using or drinking. These behavioural patterns then become strongly ingrained over the course of a person’s life in active addiction.
Being able to recognise these rituals and knowing how to change and overcome them is a really important skill to be able to use if you want a long lasting, happy recovery journey.
They aren’t hard or complicated, but understanding them, recognising them and doing something about them by making little changes repetitively is the key to making these new, healthier changes to stick.
Now we’re in 2021, birthdays and other events will be coming, which can make gift giving a difficult process for those friends and family members who are around addicts and yet, still want to give them something meaningful, useful and with the minimum possible risk of misuse or abuse.
Whether it’s a holiday/annual event such as Christmas, a special occasion or a birthday, you may be wondering what to buy for that friend or loved one in your life who has been or is in recovery for a substance use disorder (drug or alcohol addiction).
Asking what they want can be problematic because the gifts they may ask for could be related to their substance use, or even make their addiction worse. If they ask outright for something directly related to their substance use disorder, such as money, drugs, alcohol or drug paraphernalia, it could lead to a conflict at a time when you want to strengthen and celebrate the occasion with them rather than weaken or damage your relationship with them.
These suggestions will help you to not only give them something that can be of practical use to them, but also strengthen your relationship with them by showing you care, love and support them without coming across as patronising or pushy
Therapies such as counselling, hypnotherapy, EMDR, regression therapies, marriage counselling, anger management and group/family therapies among others are designed to help you move past the point you currently find yourself in, where you are using substances to mask the emotional pain that you experienced and as a protective measure, your body tells you to “forget” about the issue as it’s still emotionally painful to think or speak about so this protective measure can be why you find yourself turning to substances to cope.
Better understanding the benefits of therapy and why you should consider undergoing therapy is going to be a really important decision when it comes to your recovery and moving on from past traumas which may hold you back or cause you to relapse in the future.
Our minds can be a powerful force which can cause us to do both good or bad things. Our minds know just what to say to you and at just the right time for your mind to achieve whatever it is focused on. As addicts, we know this extremely well in the form of cravingsContinue reading “Thoughts Are Simply That… Thoughts!”
Sometimes it feels like society says you should be always happy and that showing your sadness is a sign of weakness. This is far from true – if you were to hold in all your sadness or anger you would explode!
Ignoring your feelings and thoughts may help you to manage in the short-term but in the long run, it isn’t healthy or productive for your mental health, physical health or your recovery.
Knowing how and when to employ various positive coping strategies is going to be your best ally when it comes to experiencing your thoughts and feelings in a healthy and constructive way.
The definition of personal responsibility is the idea that human beings choose, instigate or otherwise cause their own actions. A corollary idea is that because we cause our actions, we can be held morally accountable or legally liable.
There are also various types of responsibility. Some are obvious types and others that are more subtle to identify.
In this article, we look at the various models and common arguments for both sides of the “argument” that are used to understand the role accountability and responsibility plays in active using or drinking, those in recovery and the family and friends of those afflicted by addictions.
Appreciating the little things in life means that you focus your attention on what nurtures and sustains you in life. On everything and anything that brings you even the smallest amount of pleasure. It also means practicing gratitude by noticing these everyday things that you may otherwise take for granted so easily.
Because we are going through so many major changes in active addiction and early recovery, it can be somewhat difficult to hone in and focus on being grateful for the small stuff.
This article will help you to better appreciate the little things that we may take for granted when life gets hectic and rocky by providing you with hints, tips and strategies to include this into your daily life and activities.