Why Do We Have A Strong Urge To Find Out What Might Have Been — Even When This Leads To Feelings Of Regret?

Given the aversive experience of regret, traditional models of decision-making predict that people should to try to avoid it. But of course, the picture is more complex — we all have experienced the desire to know “what might have been”, even if it leads to regret. Now a study in Psychological Science, led by Lily FitzGibbon at the University of Reading, finds that the lure of finding out what might have been is surprisingly enticing.

As an extra bonus, you’ll find our 10 top tips for dealing With the regret surrounding past deeds while in addiction and/or recovery and what you can do next.

Ask Yourself “And Then What?” When You’re Stuck With Anxious Thoughts, Lapses Or Loss Of Motivation Or Direction

Ruminating over something that’s making you anxious isn’t going to achieve anything. We all loose our focus, direction or motivation at one point or another.

It can also be daunting or scary when we consider what could happen if we were to fail, this only adds more pressure to your shoulders that are already heavy!

But you can help push your thought process forward by forcing yourself to think ahead by asking a simple question, “and then what”.

Find out how to use this simple tool in your recovery in this short, easy to understand article!